Getting the point
Why is it so hard for people to believe that I'm really not interested in A) Finding a boyfriend and
B) starting any kind of relationship.
I didn't think it's that strange...But when I'm asked, the reaction is always the same "Really? - Why?" This was the case last night when My best friend thinks i'm in denial hence her and her new boy "friend" trying to start something - anything with his best friend. I'm not into being a "Friend" who offers casual sex,kissing and physical/emotional comfort to some one, just to get the warm fuzzy feeling - which I think curling up next to my cat with her little paws on my arm and falling asleep to the sound of her breathing and purring is actually rated highly on the "feel the love" scale.
It irritates me.
What ever happened to actually getting to know someone for more then two weeks before you decide to get together and devote your time to them. I've tried to explain my theory once that it takes a long time to really get to know someone. I'm thinking about a year maybe more. You like them but you want to see the "real" them.
What's better then to see them in the normal everyday kinda situations with friends or together just as friends. You get to know them without that love blinding crap that puts a blur on reality. If over the time you still have feelings for them, then go for it but only if the times right.
On the other hand if you fall for their looks but they are really pricks with an attitude to match, the good thing is that over time they can and do become quite ugly.
I'm more interested in enjoying myself with my friends who I love and not caring about any sort of relationship.
I don't need someone to hold my hand because I can't be alone or do things by myself.
That's the point - I like being able to have friends but if they are busy or whatever the case may be, I'm happy to do certain things solo. I've never done the whole movie thing by myself but i've never wanted to.
Maybe it comes from having a really independent and strong mother.
I've done it again written to much, But this really irritates me.
Hopefully people will get the point.
B) starting any kind of relationship.
I didn't think it's that strange...But when I'm asked, the reaction is always the same "Really? - Why?" This was the case last night when My best friend thinks i'm in denial hence her and her new boy "friend" trying to start something - anything with his best friend. I'm not into being a "Friend" who offers casual sex,kissing and physical/emotional comfort to some one, just to get the warm fuzzy feeling - which I think curling up next to my cat with her little paws on my arm and falling asleep to the sound of her breathing and purring is actually rated highly on the "feel the love" scale.
It irritates me.
What ever happened to actually getting to know someone for more then two weeks before you decide to get together and devote your time to them. I've tried to explain my theory once that it takes a long time to really get to know someone. I'm thinking about a year maybe more. You like them but you want to see the "real" them.
What's better then to see them in the normal everyday kinda situations with friends or together just as friends. You get to know them without that love blinding crap that puts a blur on reality. If over the time you still have feelings for them, then go for it but only if the times right.
On the other hand if you fall for their looks but they are really pricks with an attitude to match, the good thing is that over time they can and do become quite ugly.
I'm more interested in enjoying myself with my friends who I love and not caring about any sort of relationship.
I don't need someone to hold my hand because I can't be alone or do things by myself.
That's the point - I like being able to have friends but if they are busy or whatever the case may be, I'm happy to do certain things solo. I've never done the whole movie thing by myself but i've never wanted to.
Maybe it comes from having a really independent and strong mother.
I've done it again written to much, But this really irritates me.
Hopefully people will get the point.
posted by kaz at 11:16 AM
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